Have you caught yourself saying...
“If only he would do this, then I would be happy.”
“She makes me so mad!”
Both of these statements are lies and a variation of what we tell ourselves every day. Blaming others for our feelings and actions can seem liberating, but the truth is until we take responsibility for our emotions, we will never be able to experience true happiness and contentment on a long term basis.
However, if you are willing to master your emotions and learn to control what is within your sphere of responsibility, you will create a life that is filled with joy. True emotional self-reliance needs no external validation to prove your self-worth.
You are not a slave to the approval or disapproval of others nor is your life dependent on how others measure success. Emotional self-reliance allows you to create your life around what you value most."
The dictionary defines self-reliance as the ability to do things and make decisions by yourself, without needing other people to help you. Using this definition, I would then say emotional self-reliance is the ability to remain balanced, confident, and calm regardless of the events going on around you.